Wake Up...Your Life is Waiting!
Have you been asking yourself, "Why am I here?", "What is my purpose?" Do you feel like you're living someone else's dream? Do you long to jump out of bed each day excited to be alive because you are completely fulfilled in your work and personal life? Sometimes we wonder if it's even possible. But the truth is that life is short and we can't afford to waste another moment wishing we had another career, another relationship or another life.
I remember meeting a woman who was in one of my exercise classes back in the late 90's and she seemed so pleasant and happy all of the time, I was shocked when she told me this story. Her daughter was a flight attendant for TWA. She was scheduled to be off duty on July 17, 1996, however another flight attendant who was scheduled to work that day called her and asked if she could take her flight because she was sick. Her daughter agreed and was onboard TWA flight 800 that crashed shortly after takeoff from JFK airport. A twist of fate, one person lives… another dies. You would expect this mother to be bitter and tortured with the unanswered question of why her daughter was on this flight when she wasn't scheduled to be. But this woman had a completely different outlook. The lesson she learned is that life is short, people are taken unexpectedly and while you're here you better live life to your fullest potential because tomorrow is not guaranteed. She wasn't going to be bitter or angry or depressed, although no one would fault her for those feelings considering the circumstances. She believed that her daughter would want her to be happy and cherish the memories of the short time they had together.
This is just one of so many stories, including my own, that remind me to wake up and turn my dream of my ideal life into my reality. We take so much for granted sometimes and just expect that there will always be another tomorrow, but what if there isn't? What if you knew you had a limited number of days left? What would you do? Where would you go? Who would you spend your time with? All of a sudden, we would start telling people how we feel, we would do things we've always wanted to do and go places we've only dreamed about. Why can't we choose to live that way now when the days seem unlimited? It would bring much more peace and fulfillment to our lives.
The answer may be in finding our purpose and aligning it with our passions. Until we know our true purpose for being here, many of us wander aimlessly from one job to the next or one relationship to the next, always searching for something that will make us happy. The great spiritual masters teach that we will never find happiness by looking for it outside of ourselves. To be truly fulfilled or enlightened as they say, we must find peace within our own mind and body. To find peace you have to truly know yourself, what your soul wants, what your ego wants, as both play an important role in finding your purpose and living your dreams. Your soul will give you clues as to what your purpose is, while your ego will put you in action on obtaining your goals and desires. We need to respect the needs of both in order for the process to work.
Before taking steps towards finding your purpose you may need to do some self development work and meditation. There are many great books and programs on both, some of my favorites are listed at the end of this article to help you get started. Another option is to work with a coach if you find you have some limiting beliefs and blocks that you need to work through. It is important to find a coach that is certified through an International Coach Federation (ICF) accredited coach training program and one that is the right fit for you. A good coach will partner with you in forming a clear vision of what you want in your life, brainstorm new ideas or solutions to get you there, and will keep you on track and moving forward to reach your goals and dreams.
In the meantime, following the steps below will get you started on your path to finding your purpose in this life.
© 2009 Dr. Diane Speaks